Ready, Steady ...Action!

I have heard this severally: 'Actions speak louder than words' - I am sure you heard it too.

Is it fair to assess people based on what they say only, what they do only or a mixture of both? What if there is a conflict (as there usually is) between both words and action? Aha, and what of those things yet unsaid? The body language that is as silent as holding a breath?

People do things sometimes without thinking. Some people are naturally like that - impulsive, rash and even out rightly stupid. Some other people are more deliberate, the ones you have to step back from the moment to truly understand what they are on about - sometimes it'd have been already too late before you get to the 'aha!' moment, other times you never get there and have no clue that you are not there. Those are the ones I like to call shrewd. Of course there are some others who do things thoughtfully, ever so careful not to hurt/deface. I know a few people that fall under all categories, but till date the ones that I am most unforgiving towards are the shrewd people.

Based on the first statement, I guess we can safely divide people into 2 broad categories - action people and wordy people. There might even be a third category somewhere in there but I'd keep it simple.

Let me start from the relatively known: me. So I like to talk .... about me, whatever it is that catches my fancy at the time  - but I think if there was one thing I like to talk about, it is people and relationships: the whys and what-nots behind them. This does not make me a 'talker' in the strict sense of the word - I have met people who talk for the world and I KNOW for sure I am not one of them! So does that make me a doer? I think so - at least in the scale of things here. Although I find that I like to talk about things I want to do and sometimes many times I don't go through with what I spoke about because I 'heard' myself out or I got discouraged etc.On the other hand, I tend to judge people based on what they do, not say. Good intentions, in my dictionary, doesn't account for much - action does. I guess I do not mind being judged in the same manner.

I started posting this a few days ago because I remembered a few of my many-promises-friends with no action-all talk, no action. I guess I have been conditioned to drive a hard bargain over the years when it comes to relationships so that when it comes to making a clear distinction, there are people that make the ever decreasing list of friends and there are people who just exist as once-upon-a-time friends etc. Mostly, this is based on who does what they said they will do and nothing more. Like I've said several times over the past years "If it is important to you, you'd find time to do it. If it not important, you'd find excuses not to" and also "the most useless thing ever manufactured was excuse".

I wonder if I come across as more of an 'action' person as against a 'talk' person. I know, I have many an unfulfilled promises myself but I'd say at least I try. But I can't be judge and jury, can I? Sue me!